The past may explain where you are. It doesn't have to decide where you go next.
Have you ever wondered why things are the way they are? Why you act the way you do?
Why you lose your temper with the people you love. Why you say yes when you want to say no. Why you can’t switch your mind off at night. Why you keep finding yourself in the same kind of relationship.
You snap at your children over something small, then carry the guilt for the rest of the day. You catch yourself parenting in the exact way you promised you never would. You look calm and capable at work, and inside you’re running on empty.
People come to me because they’re anxious. Because a relationship has broken down. Because they can’t stop reacting to their children. Because of the drinking, the food, the endless scrolling. Because of the irritability, the numbness, the avoidance and procrastination, the quiet withdrawal from people they love…
The exhaustion from spending their whole life being the capable one – and now they’re done. Mentally and often physically – the body is saying enough.
Your emotions
Your body
Your thoughts
Your behaviour.
Most people think there’s something wrong with them. There isn’t. Usually, there’s a story.
More about how trauma shows up
Here are just some of the life events
that I've helped my clients to navigate.
- Birth trauma
- Bereavement
- Divorce or separation
- Betrayal or affairs
- Childhood traumatic events
- Abuse and coercive control
For many people it isn’t one big event. It’s years of smaller things, repeated.
- Constant criticism
- Walking on eggshells
- Feeling unseen
- Having to grow up too quickly
- Emotional neglect
- Never quite feeling good enough
- Bullying
- Always being the strong one
Your story doesn’t need to define you.
You can transcend your past – and live the life you want. On your terms.
I’ve done it, I’ve helped countless clients do it. And with my help, you can do it too.
What changes when we work together.
- Understanding yourself and what you need
- Healthier relationships
- Greater emotional flexibility
- Patterns that change for good
- Feeling more connected
- Knowing how to get those needs met
- Better boundaries
- Less fear-driven decision-making
- Practical tools you keep
- Choosing from who you are now, not what happened before Get in touch
70% of us go through something potentially traumatic in our lives. Only 5 or 6% go on to develop PTSD as we know it clinically. The rest of us are simply walking around carrying it, often without realising.
This is a normal reaction to an abnormal event. And it is not your fault.
How I work.
Healing isn’t about erasing what happened or forcing yourself to move on. It’s about helping your brain and body recognise that what’s happened and forming new beliefs about your next chapters.
My Transcend Approach brings together evidence-based therapeutic techniques, including CBT, EMDR, imagery and somatic approaches, alongside a deeply individualised way of working.
We move through three stages: settling the nervous system, updating the past, and reclaiming your life.
I'm Sonya, and here's
a little about me.
But my passion for this work isn’t only clinical, it’s lived. Divorce. Single parenting. Rebuilding a life from the inside out. I’ve done the work I now do with my clients. That’s why I believe, with everything I have, that we can change.
Transcend. The
group experience.
With almost two decades of experience helping people to transcend into a new version of their life they didn’t think was possible (as well as doing this for myself), I’m delighted to be introducing Transcend the group experience.
There is so much power in having a facilitated group experience with others who share some of your current challenges, and to move and transcend to what you want next as a group.
Please join the waitlist below to find out more about when this will begin and how to be part of it.
Other ways to work with me.
One-to-one therapy
Relationship coaching
VIP days
Organisations
What clients say.
One way to get started.
Simple, but not easy.
Calm on the outside, exhausted on the inside?
Breaking cycles without blaming yourself.
Why awareness is the first step Perhaps you promised yourself you would parent differently. You would be calmer, more patient and emotionally available. You would
The conversations couples keep putting off.
Most relationships are not undone by one dramatic argument. More often, distance develops through the conversations that never quite happen. The comment that hurt but
When your body remembers what your mind wants to forget.
You may know that you are safe. The crisis has passed. You have understood what happened and tried to move forward. Yet your body does